QUICK TO LISTEN,SLOW TO SPEAK

In his book 'QUICK TO LISTEN, SLOW TO SPEAK', Robert E. Fisher lists out 10 Love Guidelines:

1. Stop Talking and Start listening

James 1:19
My dear brothers, take note of this:Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.

Proverbs 18:13
He who answers before listening-that is his folly and his shame.

2. Think Before You Speak

Proverbs 15:23,28
A man finds joy in giving an apt reply-and how good is a timely word!.....The heart of the righteous weighs its answers, but the mouth of the wicked gushes evil.

Proverbs 29:20
Do you see a man who speaks in haste? There is more hope for a fool than for him.

3. Speak the Truth in Love

Ephesians 4:15,25
Speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ..... Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbour,for we are all members of one body.

Colossians 3:9
Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices.

4. Disagree, but Don't Argue

Proverbs 17:14
Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.

Ephesians 4:31
Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.

5. Control Your Response

Proverbs 15:1
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

2 Timothy 2:24-25
And the Lord's servant must not quarrel; instead, he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. Those who oppose him he must gently instruct.

6. Confess Your Faults

James 5:16
Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.

1 John 1:8-9
If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

7. Practice Forgiveness

Ephesians 4:32
Be kind and compassionate to one another,forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you

Colossians 3:13
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another.Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

8. Eliminate Nagging

Proverbs 10:19
When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.

Proverbs 26:21
As charcoal to embers and as wood to fire, so is a quarrelsome man for kindling strife.

9. Be Constructive, Not Critical

Romans 14:13
Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother's way.

Galatians 6:1
Brother, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted.

10.Leave Vengeance to GOD

Romans 12:17
Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody.

1 Peter 3:9
Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.